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There is an old Chinese saying: "Holding your hand, growing old with you." Shufeng and Weifang are a couple of elderly people in their eighties living in Shanghai. They are the uncle and aunt of director Zhao Qing and producer Feng Du. They met when they were young, but due to Shufeng's previous marriage, Weifang waited for him for over a decade without realizing it. They finally came together in their middle age. As they walked hand in hand through the final years of their lives, Weifang was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. Both Shufeng and Weifang were born in the 1920s. Shufeng was deeply influenced by Confucian culture from a young age, emphasizing "benevolence, righteousness, propriety, wisdom." In Shufeng's memory, the most beautiful times were his childhood and adolescence: living together as a family, reciting poetry, and practicing calligraphy... However, his fate after that was beyond his control: political movements, job transfers, losing his wife and daughter... It wasn't until 1970 that he and Weifang came together. Over nearly half a century of living together, for Shufeng and Weifang, love is memory, love is fate, but love also means conscience, morality, and responsibility. In their hearts, whether the other is young or old, clear-minded or confused, the deep love in their hearts cannot be eroded, because love has become calm and pure, deeply rooted in their very being. Now, without children to take care of them, they must face all the matters of life alone. After experiencing the ups and downs of life, Shufeng and Weifang's calm, optimistic, yet dignified attitude towards life deeply touches us. This is a story about memory, love, and dignity. Therefore, in 2012, my sister and I began filming this journey of our uncle and aunt, hoping to preserve this unforgettable time for them, for my family, and for more people. The filming lasted from 2012 to 2014. Weifang's condition worsened, and she gradually became unable to take care of herself, forgetting what she had said or done, not recognizing all her relatives and friends, but only recognizing her old companion Shufeng, trusting him, depending on him, and loving him! For Shufeng, who is nearly ninety years old, facing the inevitability of life, old age, illness, and death, and facing his beloved, he must make a choice: sending Weifang alone to a specialized nursing facility for Alzheimer's disease, which he cannot bear; moving into a nursing home together, which means giving up their relatively content life; or continuing to take care of Weifang at home alone, which he feels increasingly incapable of doing. This choice has kept Shufeng tossing and turning... What if he falls ill? What will happen to Weifang? What if he passes away first? How will Weifang continue to live?The living conditions of the two elderly individuals have undergone significant changes over the past two years. Will they still be able to maintain their dignity until the end? Currently, the number of people in China suffering from Alzheimer's disease has reached over 9 million, ranking first in the world. Due to insufficient public awareness of Alzheimer's disease, inadequate medical insurance, and limited social welfare resources, as well as a severe shortage of professional nursing institutions and caregivers, the quality of life for elderly patients and their families has been greatly affected. On the other hand, China's one-child policy and large-scale population migration have also led to a severe lack of care for left-behind elderly individuals by society and families... Seeking emotional and spiritual comfort has become a luxurious wish for many elderly Chinese people. At the end of life, as memory fades, Shufeng and Weifang still have the right to enjoy life and live a fulfilling life. One day, we will also grow old... We hope that through the message conveyed by this film, more people will join us in our efforts, so that the elderly can truly enjoy a happy and dignified old age!